Things I’ve Learned Over the Years



Here’s 22 things I’ve learned in my 22 years:

  • You have to live life in the way(s) that make you happy
  • You have to decide your own destiny and identity
  • You can only plan so much because some things are left up to fate
  • It’s important to look for new ways to grow
  • You cannot fully grow if you only keep yourself in comfortable positions
  • People will judge you no matter what
  • Listen before judging. People deserve to be heard
  • Listen to your intuition. It often will tell you what’s best
  • Learn from your mistakes-don’t just ignore them
  • Acknowledge your flaws; everyone has them, so there’s no need to be ashamed
  • Being defensive comes from a place of fear
  • Many problems can be avoided my thinking before speaking
  • Rest is important
  • Self care is important
  • Your real friends will be happy to see you grow and progress
  • Being a person of your word is extremely important
  • Never underestimate your potential
  • Your fears will hold you back if you let them
  • Making time for self-reflection is crucial
  • Needing help is nothing to be ashamed of
  • Being your own fan/supporter makes your life much happier
  • Know who you are inside and out. That way you will never feel lost


Monday Musings

Monday Musings: How Being Attached to Places Impacts our Sense of Self


I have always felt connected to New York City.

I spent lots of time there during my childhood—visiting family, connecting myself to the beauty of Harlem, and finding myself lost in the sea of skyscrapers. I would dream of leaving my suburban life in Connecticut, and could clearly envision my family moving into a brownstone in Harlem. It got to the point where I had decided that New York was the PLACE for me, I would not be happy anywhere else.

Fast forward to the end of my high school days. I was off to college and going to NYU, my dream school in my dream city. I was excited to be a part of the city that had captivated me for so long. I spent those four years loving New York even more—it was the backdrop to my coming of age tale. I learned so much about the world in that city, and it was where I came into myself. When my college days started to wind down, I found myself wondering if people could develop a sense of dependence on a place, and find their identity wrapped up in a particular location.

I moved to Philly in August, and I find myself actively and inactively longing for New York. Philly is a cool city, but my attachment to New York has made it difficult for me to fully enjoy living here. I realized that New York became a safe space for me, as strange as that may sound. I had attached myself to it, and now I’ve realized that I cannot allow myself to be too comfortable in any one space. This year I’ve been thinking of ways to keep myself in a state of healthy discomfort, which includes moving around, traveling more, and not limiting myself and my identity to only one space. This is important not only for physical spaces, but also mental and emotional ones. It’s important that I keep pushing myself to branch out, and not cling to places or ideas for comfort. StockSnap_22BP3KNNOQ.jpg